Man Complains Over High Cost of Marriage Proposal

A man’s story about his fiancée wanting a yacht event and a luxury bag worth 8 million won(6,000 dollars) is causing a stir online. However, netizens are scolding the man who posted this story, saying he lacks a conscience. Why might this be?

A post titled, “Should I spend about 10 million won(7,500 dollars) on a proposal as my girlfriend wants?” was posted on Blind, an anonymous online community for office workers, on the 29th.

The poster stated, “I work for a small and medium-sized company, and my girlfriend is a public servant. Our combined take-home pay is about 5 million won(3,744 dollars).” He expressed distress at the thought of spending around 10 million won(7,500 dollars) on a proposal.

The poster said, “My girlfriend, who has never owned a luxury item before, showed me a luxury bag worth 8 million won(6,000 dollars), saying she’d like to receive it when I propose. She also expressed her desire for a proposal on a yacht.”

The poster expressed his concerns, saying, “I’m worried that I’d have to spend all the cash I’ve saved to give her the proposal she wants. I wish she would consider my financial situation.”

He also expressed a headache over the fact that his girlfriend paid for all the wedding expenses. “I don’t have any savings because I’ve been living alone, so my girlfriend paid off the loan for our newlywed house and even furnished it. She also paid for the interior decoration of the newlywed house. She paid for all the wedding expenses,” he said, adding, “Even after we get married, her parents will be providing us with financial support.”

The poster asked netizens, “I think my girlfriend, who has paid for all the wedding expenses and furnished the newlywed house, wants a luxury gift and a proposal event in return. Is it right to spend about 10 million won(7,500 dollars) on a proposal? Do I have to do it?”

Netizens unanimously criticized the man, saying he seemed to lack a conscience. They responded with comments such as, “Your girlfriend has paid several times more than 10 million won(7,500 dollars), what are you talking about?”, “You’re reluctant to spend just 10 million won(7,500 dollars)?”, “She’s paid for all the wedding expenses, you should do it”, “She’s paid off the loan for the newlywed house and even furnished it, have some conscience”, “I understand what the woman wants”, “He doesn’t want to spend a penny”, “Are you getting married for free?”, “This is a scam marriage”, “The man doesn’t realize how lucky he is”, “Of course, you should do it”, “You can afford 10 million won(7,500 dollars)”, “He’s more greedy than a thief”, etc.

One netizen advised him to show sincerity equivalent to what he received from his girlfriend. They said, “The 10 million won(7,500 dollars) spent on the proposal will probably be supported by your girlfriend’s parents in other ways later. You need to show that you’ve done your best within your means. From the perspective of your girlfriend’s parents, they’ve provided all the financial support, and if their daughter can’t even get the proposal she wants, they’ll be upset. You should accommodate what your girlfriend wants in return for the help you’ve received.”

One netizen couldn’t understand the girlfriend wanting a luxury bag worth 8 million won(6,000 dollars). They argued, “If their combined take-home pay is 5 million won(3,744 dollars) and she’s asking for an 8 million won(6,000 dollars) luxury bag, that means the woman isn’t being realistic about her situation. Even if he buys it first, she should refuse and think about saving money.”

By. Kyoung Jin Yoon